First Communion Parent Handbook

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Letter from Father Paul

Dear Parents and Guardians, 

Soon your child will join your family and God's family at the Lord's Table for the first time. He/She will eat the Bread of Life and drink from the Cup of Life. Your child will learn in his/her First Eucharist preparation classes what a wonderful gift Jesus has given us in the Eucharist. You can support this learning by expressing your own appreciation of the wonder and the mystery of this glorious gift.

The best preparation for First Eucharist that you can give your child is REGULAR ATTENDANCE AT MASS. Talk to your child about the Mass before you go and at appropriate moments in the actual celebration when you are in church together. Emphasize that the Mass is God's family celebrating a meal.  Start at the beginning of the Mass and explain that as we enter the church, we make the family sign, the Sign of the Cross. Ask your child if he/she knows or can guess why the cross is our family sign. Remind your child that Jesus, by His death on the cross, won the life that he/she will share in; the bread and wine of the Eucharist, the Body and Blood of Jesus; life that goes on forever, even after we die.

Remind your child that when he/she dips fingers into the holy water and makes the sign of the cross, to think of the holy waters of Baptism that make us members of God's family. Point out that just as we wash our hands before eating a family meal, blessing ourselves with holy water helps us to remember that before receiving Jesus, our spiritual food, our souls should be cleansed of sin.

Talk about the fact that at family meals people talk to one another. Then explain that during the Mass, we have a family conversation too. We talk to God, for example. In the opening greeting, the Penitential Rite, we ask God's forgiveness and the forgiveness of one another, for our sins.  Stress the importance of what happens at the Penitential Rite of the Mass. We are sorry for our sins and we forgive one another.

Draw on your child's experience of meals at home to help him/her understand what is happening and request that he/she joins in. Talk about a time when a meal was spoiled because people were crabby or angry at each other and how happy a meal was when everybody was getting along. Then explain that the same thing happens in God's family and that is why we have this time in the Mass for asking and giving forgiveness. It is a special time for getting our hearts ready to eat at the Lord's Table. Because Jesus is coming to share Himself with us, we especially want to have love and peace in our hearts for one another. When you are at Mass with your child, you might call his/her attention to the Penitential Rite and encourage him/her to join in the response.

During the Gloria, we praise God together. Encourage your child to also join in these prayer responses with you, as much as possible. Remind him/her that it is good to talk and sing to God.

Ask if your child knows that special time when we hear God's Word at Mass.Then discuss the fact that God speaks to us in the words that the lector proclaims to us from the Lectionary (a book of readings taken from the Bible, which are also known as the Scriptures) for the First and Second Readings. Between the Readings, the community will sing the Responsorial Psalm and after the Readings, will sing the Alleluia. After the Alleluia, the deacon or priest will proclaim the Gospel from Book of Gospels. This part of the Mass is called the Liturgy of the Word.  Invite your child to share some of God's words that he/she has learned at Mass or during class.

After the proclamations from the Lectionary and Book of Gospels, the deacon or priest will give an explanation of the Scriptures that were proclaimed, so that everyone can better understand the meaning of the Scriptures. This is called the homily.  After the homily has ended, everyone will say the Profession of Faith, which are the main things that we believe as Catholic Christians. The Profession of Faith we usually say is the Nicene Creed.

Then the second part of the Mass begins. It is called the Liturgy of the Eucharist.  This part of the Mass begins with the Preparation of the Altar and the Gifts. The priest prepares the altar and accepts the gifts of bread and wine from the community. At special meals you decorate your family table with flowers and candles and a nice tablecloth and dishes. Tell your child that God's family does that for this very special meal in which Jesus comes to share all of Himself with us. There is a fresh, clean altar cloth on the family table, flowers, candles, special dishes, cups and food that will become the most wonderful food that we can share; food that will make it possible for us to meet God someday, face to face.

After the Preparation of the Altar and Gifts, the priest will begin the Eucharistic Prayer, during which the community will say or sing the Holy, Holy, Holy.

At the Last Supper when Jesus broke the bread and passed it to His friends, He said, "Take this, all of you, and eat it: This is my body, which will be given up for you."  Next He passed a cup of wine around the table for His friends to share. "Take this, all of you, and drink from it." He said, "This is the cup of my blood, the blood of the new and everlasting covenant. It will be shed for you and for all so that sins may be forgiven." Then Jesus said, "Do this in memory of me." This is the part of the Mass that we call the Consecration.

Jesus did not mean that the sharing of wine and the bread would be a simple ceremony of remembering, as we remember a departed friend with a toast or tribute. He promised His very life in this sacrament. In the Eucharist, Jesus is truly and fully present to us under the appearance of bread and wine. The bread and wine truly becomes Jesus' Body and Blood during the Consecration. He shares all of Himself with us; the life He lived, the life He won by His death and resurrection, and the glorious life He has promised when He comes again.

After the Consecration, we say or sing the Memorial Acclamation.  This is another important Mass prayer that you should invite your child to pray along with you. In one of the Memorial Acclamations we say, " Christ has died. Christ has risen.  Christ will come again." This prayer expresses the very heart of our faith: the sacred Mystery that makes it possible for Christ to be with us in the Eucharist.

The Communion Rite begins with the community saying or singing the Lord's Prayer (the Our Father), followed by the Sign of Peace. Prepare your child for the Sign of Peace by pointing out that not only do we talk to God and listen for God to talk to us, but that there is a special time when we share greetings with the other members of God's family who have gathered with us to share the Eucharist. Explain that in exchanging a sign of peace, we show Jesus that we want to love one another as He loved His people. 

We finish our preparation to receive Jesus in Communion, by saying or singing the Lamb of God and inviting Jesus to make us holy by saying, "Lord I am not worthy to receive you, but only say the word, and I shall be healed."  Then we have the privilege of truly receiving Jesus in the Eucharist, Jesus' Body and Blood.

Please teach your child to receive Him with reverence and to be in a state of grace.  (Help your child remember to not receive the Eucharist if he/she is not in a state of grace because of unconfessed mortal sins.). Remind your child to say, "Amen," which means, "I believe," and to   cup his/her hands, or stick out the tongue, to receive Jesus from the priest, the deacon or the Extraordinary Minister of the Eucharist.

  During the reception of Jesus in Communion, the community will share songs, which will be followed by a period of silence.  Then the priest will say a prayer and begin the Concluding Rite, which includes a blessing, and   then the Dismissal.  In the Dismissal, the deacon or priest will invite everyone to go in peace.

Receiving Christ for the first time should have a lasting effect on the direction of your child's life, as it should have had on yours. You can help that happen for your child not only by frequently receiving the Eucharist with your child, but also just as importantly, openly expressing your appreciation of this beautiful Gift with your family. Begin with your own heartfelt gratitude for the fact that God loves us enough to be with us always in the Blessed Sacrament that nourishes our spirits and enables us to do Christ's peace. Share the fact that we take Christ with us.

Help your child to understand by your words, prayers, and example, that we are never more truly the Body of Christ than when we are His hands reaching out to others, His feet coming to another's aid, and His mouth speaking words of comfort and encouragement. Then your child will know truly how wonderful the Eucharist is, because he/she will experience Jesus' giving His Love to others, through you.  You could not hope to give your child a better lesson on the Eucharist.

May your child's First Eucharist be the beginning of a lifetime of Holy Communions with you and others in God's family.

Sincerely in Christ,

Father Paul Radetski

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Introduction

First Communion is considered one of the holiest and most important occasions in a Roman Catholic's life. It means that person has received the Sacrament of the Eucharist, the body and blood of Jesus Christ. Most Catholic children receive their First Communion when they're seven or eight years of age because this is considered the age of reason. Others can receive communion for the first time whenever they've met all the Church's requirements.

A child, or any person, who is not baptized cannot receive communion. If the child is baptized, she generally begins studying for First Communion in first grade. Those children who don't attend Catholic school go to religious instruction classes after school or on weekends. In most cases for young children, at least two years of religious education must be undertaken before they can receive communion for the first time.

There's more to a child's first communion than a pretty white dress and a family party. While it is a cause for celebration, that's not what the occasion is about. The event means that the children have studied and understood, to the best of their abilities, the mystery of transubstantiation, the changing of the substance of ordinary bread and wine into the substance of Christ's body and blood. A child should also be able to tell the difference between Eucharistic bread and regular food.

On the day of one's First Communion, and whenever receiving communion thereafter, those partaking must, out of respect for the body and blood of Christ, observe another rule: At least one hour before reception of the sacrament, they must fast, which means they may not eat any food. Taking water and medicine, however, are exceptions. After First Communion, young Catholics must attend church every Sunday, and they are encouraged to receive communion frequently, even weekly. If one has missed Sunday Mass without good reason or has committed a mortal sin, that person is expected to go to confession before receiving communion again.

First Communion is a very important and holy day for Catholic children because they are receiving, for the first time, the body and blood of Jesus Christ. By continuing to receive Holy Communion for the rest of their lives, Catholics become one with Christ and believe they will share in His eternal life.

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First Communion Pointers:

Emphasis on the Practical

  1. Do take an active part in preparing your child for First Communion. Ask the children what they are doing in class.  Look through your child's text to see what they have done in class and question them about it. 
  2. Do be aware that you TEACH more by what you ARE and DO than by what you say. 
  3. Do provide religious experiences in your home.  Children will learn more from these than from listening, reciting and memorizing. Introduce or add additional ways and time for family prayer: during meals (let each member take turns); on special occasions like birthdays; before bed; when someone is in trouble. Write family prayers together and keep them in a special place to be used when the family gathers for meals or celebrations.  These experiences should not always be limited to words. Music, quiet time activities, blessings with touch, use of Holy Water and candles - all illustrate that God can be found everywhere and touches all of life. 
  4. Do grow together in appreciation of God's Word. Introduce your child to Scripture. On Saturday afternoons or evenings, set aside a few moments to read and interpret the Scripture reading for the weekend Mass. 
  5. Do make Mass a family event. Whenever possible, attend Mass as a family. Sit near the front. Talk about the Mass on your way to church; suggest something for the children to pray about, something to watch or listen for. Talk about the homily on the way home. Offer to take up the gifts at Mass. 
  6. Do take a tour of the Church. Stay awhile after Mass and point out to your child where they were baptized; point out the altar, the tabernacle, etc. Ask for a copy of the Church Search pamphlet from the Religious Education Office. 
  7. Do stress Communion as a beginning. First Communion is a decisive act but it is not a culmination. Everything in the preparation should convince the child that it is the beginning or a life-long series of privileged moments and growth.

 Things not to do:

  1.  Don't make First Communion something it's not. It should be just what we call it, first. Not only. Not most important. Not the happiest day of the child's life. For many children, Christmas or their birthday might be much happier. They might feel guilty that they do not feel a "special" happiness on this day. Stressing that this should be the "happiest" day implies that this is the only time they really receive Jesus; that other times are only a commemoration of the big day. 
  2. Don't over-emphasize the externals. Shopping for a wardrobe, taking pictures during the "ceremony" and celebrating with a party afterwards are certainly all part of First Communion Day. But do emphasize the spiritual, interior meaning of this day, and stress that the Eucharist will continue to be a source of strength and growth throughout the child's life. 
  3. Don't discourage chewing the host. The Eucharist bread that we receive is food. It is intended to be eaten. Jesus' words to us are, "Take and eat." 
  4. Don't give the idea that Communion is a reward. Jesus comes to us because he loves us and we need Him. The Eucharist is "the" sign of our unity and our love for one another. We are given this gift even though we are weak and often experience failure.

Important Things to Know to Receive Communion

Taken from "First Eucharist, A Catechesis for Primary Grades" by Benzigar 

  1. Know the life of Jesus
    1. Jesus is the Son of God. Mary is Jesus' mother.
    2. (Jesus is God - my addition)
    3. Jesus taught people how to follow God's rules of love.
    4. Jesus gave us the Eucharist at His Last Supper with His friends.
    5. He died on the cross to save us from sin and death.
    6. He rose from the dead.
    7. Jesus is with God His Father-(His father and ours- my addition.) Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to always help God's Family.
  2. Understand the difference between Communion (bread and wine-my addition), and ordinary bread and wine.
    1. When Mass begins, the bread and wine become Jesus at the Consecration when the priest says the words of Jesus: "This is My body" and "This is My blood."
    2. The bread and wine do not seem different in any way after they become Jesus.  They still seem to be bread and wine - they look and taste and feel the same, but they are really Jesus.
    3. When you receive just the Host in Communion, you are really receiving Jesus.  Jesus is fully present in the Host.  Jesus is also fully present when you receive Communion from the cup.
  3. Show a desire to receive Communion
    1. Jesus gave us the Eucharist because He loves us.
    2. People want to receive Jesus.  They love Jesus.  They want Jesus to help them show love.  They want to share in the Meal of God's Family.

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Common Prayers

OUR FATHER

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy Name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.  Amen.

HAIL MARY

Hail Mary, full of Grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

AN ACT OF CONTRITION

 Father, I am sorry, for all my sins.
I am sorry for the wrong things I have done.
I am sorry for the good things I have failed to do.
I will try to do better. Jelp me to love others. Amen.

GLORY BE

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit;
as it was in the  beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.

THE SIGN OF THE CROSS

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

GRACE BEFORE MEALS

Bless us, O Lord, and these Thy gifts which we are about to receive from Thy bounty; through Christ Our Lord. Amen

GRACE AFTER MEALS

We give you thanks almighty God, for all the benefits, we have received,
through Christ our Lord. Amen

AN ACT OF CONTRITION

O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee. I detest all my sins because  I dread the loss of heaven and the pains of hell; but most of all because I have offended Thee, my God, Who art all good and deserving of all my love. I  firmly resolve with the help of Thy grace to confess my sins, to do penance, and to amend my life. Amen

GUARDIAN ANGEL PRAYER

Angel of God, my Guardian dear.
To whom God's love, commits me here.
Ever this day, be at my side,
To light, to guard,
To rule, and guide. Amen.

BEDTIME PRAYER

Now I lay me down to sleep.
I pray the Lord, my soul to keep.
Guard me safely through this night.
Wake me with the morning light.
God bless……(Mom, Dad, John, Sarah,etc…..)
Amen.

THE APOSTLES' CREED

I believe in God the Father Almighty, Creator of heaven and earth; and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord; Who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended into hell; the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of God, the Father Almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy Catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen

PRAYER TO THE HOLY SPIRIT

Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of Thy faithful, and enkindle in them the fire of Thy love. Send forth Thy spirit and they shall be created and Thou shalt renew the face of the earth.

Let us pray. O God, Who didst teach the heart of Thy faithful people by sending them the light of Thy Holy Spirit, grant us by the same Spirit to have a right judgment in all things, and evermore to rejoice in His holy comfort through Christ our Lord. Amen

THE ANGELUS

The angel of the Lord declared unto Mary.
And she conceived of the Holy Spirit.
...Hail Mary…
Behold the handmaid of the Lord.
Be it done unto me according to Thy word.
...Hail Mary…
AND THE WORD WAS MADE FLESH.
And dwelt among us.
...Hail Mary…
Pray for us, O Holy Mother of God,that we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.

Let us Pray: Pour forth, we beseech Thee, O Lord, Thy grace into our hearts; that we to whom the incarnation of Thy Son was made known by the message of the angel made by His Passion and Cross be brought to the glory of His resurrection; through the same Christ our Lord. Amen

THE GREAT COMMANDMENT

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS

  1. I am the Lord your God. You shall not have strange gods before me.
  2. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
  3. Remember to keep holy the Lord's Day.
  4. Honor your father and your mother.
  5. You shall not kill.
  6. You shall not commit adultery.
  7. You shall not steal.
  8. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
  9. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife.
  10. You shall not covet your neighbor's goods.

THE FIVE PRECEPTS OF THE CHURCH

  1. Attend Mass on all Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation and rest from servile labor.
  2. Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation at least once a year.
  3. Receive Holy Communion at least during the Easter season.
  4. Fast and abstain on days of penance established by the Church.
  5. Provide for the material needs of the Church according to your ability.

THE SEVEN SACRAMENTS

  1. Baptism
  2. Penance
  3. Holy Eucharist
  4. Confirmation
  5. Marriage
  6. Holy Orders
  7. Blessing (Anointing) of the Sick

CORPORAL ACTS OF MERCY

"…Just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me" (Matthew 25:31-46).

  1. Feed the hungry.
  2. Give drink to the thirsty.
  3. Clothe the naked.
  4. Shelter the homeless.
  5. Visit the sick.
  6. Visit the imprisoned.
  7. Bury the dead.

SPIRITUAL WORKS OF MERCY

  1. Counsel the doubtful.
  2. Instruct the ignorant.
  3. Admonish the sinner.
  4. Comfort the sorrowful.
  5. Forgive injuries.
  6. Bear wrongs patiently.
  7. Pray for the living and the dead.

THE BEATITUDES

from Matthew 5:3-11; and Luke 6:20-26

  1. Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of God.
  2. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
  3. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
  4. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
  5. Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.
  6. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
  7. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
  8. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

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2010 FIRST COMMUNION SPECIAL DATES
FOR ST. MARY GRADE SCHOOL
AND ST. MARY/ST. JOHN FAITH FORMATION STUDENTS
*(CFFC) = CATHOLIC FAITH FORMATION CENTER (FORMER ST. JOHN'S GRADE SCHOOL)

Day

Date

Time

Purpose

Place

WED

1-20-10

6:00

PARENT MEETING

(CFFC) CAFETERIA

WED

1-27-10

6:00

PRAYER BUDDY NIGHT

(CFFC) CLASSROOM

SAT

3-13-10

9:00-12:00

1st COMMUNION RETREAT PARENT/CANDIDATE

(CFFC) CAFETERIA

THUR

4-22-10

6:00

REHEARSAL

ST. MARY'S

SUN

4-25-10

1:30

1ST COMMUNION MASS

ST. MARY'S

TUES

5-04-10

6:00

PRAYER BUDDY PARTY

(CFFC) CAFETERIA

Communion

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First Communion Photos

Richard Meyer has again agreed to be the photographer at the 1st Communion Masses.  He will be taking pictures of the children receiving their 1st Communion with their parents, and receiving their certificates, as well as any of the special functions such as bringing up the gifts, petitions, etc.  He will be taking a group picture immediately after Mass.

**Please note that option #7 offered is an individual picture of the candidate posed at the altar.  If you choose this option you must let us know. These pictures will be taken after the group picture. 

Please turn in your order along with your payment as soon as possible, or bring them along to the practice.

 You can order any option or combination of options that you want:

 

  1. An 8x10 photo of your child receiving communion………………….$12 each
  2. An 8x10 photo of the group…………………………………………..$12 each
  3. A picture board made up of three to four photos of the event………..$16 each
  4. A package of one 8x10 photo (items 1 or 2) and 1 board…….………$25 each
  5. A package of two 8x10 photos (items 1 and 2) and 1 board………….$33 each
  6. Set of 3 or 4 photos (4x6) used for #2 (un-mounted & un-cropped)…$14 each
  7. A 5x7 of your child, posed at the altar…………………………………$6 each

Reminder:  If you choose #7 option you must stay after Mass to have the photo taken.  Please let Mr. Meyer know you have ordered this.

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  First Communion Order Form 

PARENT/GUARDIAN NAME______________________________________________

CHILD/CHILDRENS' NAMES_____________________________________________

1)  8X10 OF CHILD                           _______________X $12 =__________________

2)  8X10 OF GROUP                    ______________X $12=__________________

3)  3-4 PICTURE BOARD            ______________X $16 =___________________

4)  PACKAGE  #4                           ______________X $25 =___________________

5)  PACKAGE  #5                         ______________X $33 =___________________

6)  PICTURES UN-MOUNTED   ______________X $14 =__________________

7)  5X7 PHOTO OF YOUR
      CHILD (POSED)                     _______________X $6 =___________________

                                                     TOTAL DUE: ___________________

 

Payment is due at the time of the order.  Make checks payable to St. John's

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